Many people end up not living up to their full potential because of the lack of confidence. They end up being self-conscious about themselves, as well as being overly concerned about what other people think about them. Here are 3 strategies to help improve your confidence so that you can really understand your value and have the courage to share your brilliance with the world.
Appreciate your abilities.
One of the main reasons why people lack confidence is the perception that those around them are better than them. In some instances, you may feel less significance in the presence of those you think are more gifted, talented, or significant. You must learn to look at yourself as being just as gifted, talented, and significant as anyone else. By appreciating your abilities, you will know you have value and significance when you are in the presence of others.
Watch the company you keep.
To become confident, you need to make sure that you keep company with people who appreciate you and your abilities. What others think about us significantly influences us. Therefore, to make sure that you become confident, surround yourself with people who appreciate who you are. Good company needs people who are willing to correct you when you are wrong, as well as those who celebrate you when you win.
Learn from your past.
Life is a journey. What you go through today, can be applied in navigating your tomorrow. In building confidence, this principle is very true. Learning from the past can ensure you that you are more than able to overcome mistakes of the past that could have likely led to low confidence or low self-esteem. Learning from your past guides you on improving on your weaknesses, as well as using your strengths which is very instrumental in building confidence.
OYA CHALLENGE
I challenge you to begin to work on being more confident. Write down 5 things that make you are good at doing. As you face new challenges, remember those 5 things and how you can use them to empower you to face the challenges before you.
Being a more confident you is possible. You can be more confident and more amazing. To feel more confident, begin to appreciate what’s unique and special about you, keep people around you who appreciates your value, and learn from the past so you can feel confident going into the future. Remember to believe in your own greatness.
Until next time…
Dr. Denise,
The Self Discovery Expert ™
When was the last time you looked at yourself in the mirror? You would probably say, this morning. But when was the last time you really looked into your own eyes and really looked at your face? Sound uncomfortable? It may for some people.
Some of you may avoid the mirror because you don’t like what you see. Do you see yourself as a fat, ugly, stupid, old, or any other negative label? Do you see yourself as some of the negative names others called you? Do you believe the lies about you?
It’s important that you understand who you are comes from how you see yourself and limited by what you cannot see. For example, if you see yourself as ugly, dumb, a failure, then you can’t see beyond that. You block a view of your destiny with a negative mindset.
When you look in the mirror, what do you speak about yourself? Do you say things that create a negative vision like…”I’m not good enough or I can’t live the life I want? Or, do you speak things that create a vision of amazing possibilities?
It’s time to create a new vision for yourself.
OYA Challenge
Write down what you want to see in your life in the areas of your health, your marriage, your career, your finances and your future. And speak positive affirmations about the possibilities for a new life.
Anyone without a positive vision will not achieve the life of success they dream of. Without a positive vision of your future, no great success will come. Instead of that amazing destiny, you end up settling into a life of quiet desperation.
Are you ready to create a positive vision for your life and step into your amazing destiny? Now is the time to get a vision and own your amazing.
Until next time…
Dr. Denise,
The Self Discovery Expert ™
Life is full of challenges and difficult situations. Everyone is faced with them from time to time. So, when adversity strikes, how do you handle it? But, more importantly, how can you handle adversity better than you ever have in the past?
Here are three essential strategies for overcoming adversity:
Have confidence.
What it really means to have confidence is to simply in your ability to figure things out. Acknowledge and accept that you are faced with a difficult situation, but also trust that you can and will get through it. Instead of getting focused on negativity, remember that you’ve figured things out in the past that were equally difficult or even harder and you can do the same again.
You’re not alone.
Out of the billions of people in the world, you are not facing any adversity that’s completely unique to you. There are other people who have gone through what you’re going through. You are not alone. Don’t allow the adversity to isolate you or to cause you to think that you are alone and can’t get support.
Get support and ask for help.
As soon as adversity strikes, ask for help. Asking for help can take can come in many ways, from talking to a trusted friend, meeting with a spiritual guide, or even meeting with a counselor. Openly communicating and sharing what you’re going through or listening to others about how they’ve dealt with a similar issue, can truly help you. The key thing to remember is that you’re not alone as you face challenges and adversities.
OYA Challenge
When faced with your next challenge or adversity, write down 3 things you did in the past to overcome a similar situation. By doing this, you will increase your confidence that you have everything it takes to overcome the current adversity.
Accepting that everyone faces adversity at some point in life is a critical mindset to sustaining success in life. Accept the fact that we can’t avoid adversity, but we can determine our attitude and the actions in handling the challenges. We can move forward by facing the adversity and accepting it as necessary in our overall growth and development in being confident and successful in life.
Until next time…
Dr. Denise,
The Self Discovery Expert ™
Everyone fears failure. However, failure is inevitable. You cannot run from it. Everyone has encountered failure at some point in life. Unfortunately, many people consider it as something that ruins their lives. Even though we hate failure, it has its benefits. Failure can make you wiser, smarter, and lead you towards success. In short, failure can be good for you. It’s up to you to decide how you take it. Do you let it take over you and surrender to it or do you get up and do something positive about it?
Here are 3 strategies for dealing with failure:
Find out the main reason for failure
Life is never an easy ride; therefore, failure will always be there. Always ask yourself what you can you learn from the failure and how you can improve from it. Do not blame anyone or anything for it. Think about the pros and cons of what happened. Really think about what went wrong, as well as what should be improved. After you have considered all these points, simply think about what you intend to do now, to make the next experience even better. Finally, forget about the failure and think about the bright future that you have ahead of you.
Plan
Make sure that you plan everything out. It could be your strategies, your aim, and your goals. A well-thought-out plan can aid you to be much more focused in achieving your goals. You should know what your next steps are and a plan will help you to be clear on where you are headed. Also, always remember to set the time limits for each of your goals in your plan. Having clearly defined deadlines can help push you so you can stay focused on the future and not on your failure.
Always believe in yourself
Always have faith in yourself. In moments of failure, it’s very easy for you consider yourself worthless, defeated, and whereby you may lose hope in almost everything. Do not allow these negative feelings to get to you. In fact, always motivate and encourage yourself. Always think positive thoughts and believe in yourself, without focusing on what didn’t go right for you or have you failed. Continue to believe in the person you see in the mirror.
OYA CHALLENGE
I challenge you to begin to grow through your failure. Think of a time you failed. Write down 3 things you learned from the situation.
Owning your amazing is possible when you learn to grow from your failures and continue to believe in yourself. For you to be successful in your life, failure and perseverance must be there. You can be stronger, wiser, and smarter after failure, if you choose to learn the lessons. Always see your own greatness. Have faith in you that you can move forward after failure. Remember to encourage and support yourself to get back up and move forward.
Until next time…
Dr. Denise,
The Self Discovery Expert ™
When you make decisions about your life, whose voice are you listening to?
With so many voices telling you which career to choose, the friends to have, how to business run your business, it’s easy to forget to hear the most important voice of all. The most important voice to listen to is your own.
Why is it important to listen to your own voice? It’s important to listen to your own voice because your happiness and fulfillment comes from making sure your life align with who you are for yourself.
Here are 3 tips to help you in learning to listen to your own voice.
Be honest with yourself.
It can sometimes be very easy to ignore your feelings and push them away. We sometimes push our feelings aside and take what may seem like the easier option because we’re afraid of disappointing others, saying no, or failing. However, ultimately this is about your happiness. Be honest with yourself and acknowledge your feelings. Our feelings are there to guide and support you. Listen to them.
Get clear on the vision you have for your life
Get clear on what you want for your life. Only you know what is in your heart for your life. You know what your heart’s desires are. Make sure what you say you want is really what you want and not what others say you should want.
Be willing to speak up for what you want
You have to be willing to speak up for want. If you don’t stand for yourself and what you want, then who will? You have to stand for you before others will. If you are willing to speak up for yourself then others will listen and respect what you have to say. Don’t stay silent about what you want.
OYA Challenge
This week, take some quiet time with yourself. Ask yourself questions, like am I happy with my life, am I happy with my career, or am I happy with my relationships. Really listen to the answers that come up. You may be surprised at your answers.
I believe if you and I are going to live the life we want, we have to learn to drown out all the noise of the world around us. Our voices are too important and powerful to be kept silent.
Until next time…
Dr. Denise,
The Self Discovery Expert™
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I took a road trip with one of my clients. A big take-away from the trip was being able to have really great coaching with my client. The uninterrupted time to talk and share really made the trip great. My client relocation to a major city for her job was one of her dreams. And now she’s living and owning her amazing, new life. I am glad I was able to support her in this transition.
You must learn to dream big—really big! As they say in Texas…”go big or go home.” Yes, you know great things are possible. But you have to take it a step further and start believing that great things are possible for you. You have to believe that you can and that you deserve to have everything in your life exactly the way you want it.
One of the biggest keys to making your big dreams come true is to take action. Once you have a clear vision of your big dream, you must take the necessary actions to making your dreams a reality. Whether it’s getting in the car and driving 21 hours to a new city or updating your resume, it’s all about taking action.
Now what about you? Are you ready to live your dream life? Are you ready to start going after the life you were meant to live? If you need support in going after your dream life, I’m here to help. We may even need to take a road trip!
Until next time,
Dr. Denise,
The Self Discovery Expert ™
